Divorce: It Doesn’t Have to be a Fight

So, you’ve popped the question, walked down the aisle, said I do, and celebrated those closest to you. Time ticks forward, the honeymoon phase passes, and you come to the unfortunate realization that you and your spouse may not be right for each other. Soon after you hear those four dreaded words “I want a divorce”.

While I hope none of you find yourselves in that position, the fact remains that it is very much a possibility. My own family has been plagued with divorces. It just seems to be one of those things that is prevalent in every community. But what do you do when you find yourself suddenly in the middle of one? What should your next steps be when you decide you want out or when your spouse slaps the papers on the dinner table? The short answer, call an attorney.

The long answer, find a competent attorney who will help you end things amicably, if possible, but will also fight to defend your rights if things go South. Personally, I’m of the belief that while divorce isn’t a fun process, it doesn’t have to be a terrible one.  So my priority is handling things as amicably as possible. Just because you and your spouse feel you are no longer meant to be together, does not mean you have to be bitter enemies through the process. An amicable divorce is the best way to make sure both sides get out without racking up large amounts of legal fees.

However, things can’t always go according to plan. Divorce is a very emotional time for people and sometimes no matter how hard you try to keep the peace, things can become contested. If that happens, I cannot stress enough the importance of having an attorney in your corner. If you can help it, don’t represent yourself. Ever. Just don’t do it. Without an attorney looking out for your interests, you risk signing off on a decree that serves your spouse much more than it serves you.

If you feel you need to consider the option of divorce, please don’t hesitate to contact me. Depending on the circumstances I may be able to facilitate your divorce amicably and keep the peace. But if not, O’Neil Wysocki and I will be on the front lines for you to make sure you aren’t taken advantage of.